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Heidi Emberling, MA, Parenting Educator and Early Childhood Specialist

Selective Mutism in Preschool Children March 5, 2014

Filed under: Challenging Behaviors — Heidi Emberling @ 4:16 am

A few years ago, I was asked to observe a child who never spoke to her preschool teachers, although she had no trouble talking at home with her parents.  She actively participated in all the preschool activities, including art, science, reading, writing–even dancing during music time–but she never spoke or responded to either of her teachers.  Her parents and teachers were confused.  She was quite chatty at home, but completely quiet at school.  Parents and teachers assumed it was a power struggle; that she was being willfully defiant.  But more often than not, the child is simply “stuck” and has retreated into a pattern of silence in the classroom.  Over the past few years, I’ve observed a handful of children who exhibit similar symptoms.  If symptoms persist for more than a month, children might develop Selective Mutism.

Selective Mutism is characterized by a child’s inability to speak in certain settings and with certain people.  The child may have no problem talking at home or with close relatives or friends, but may not speak at all, or may only speak in whispers, in other social settings such as school, out in public, or at extended family gatherings.  In most cases, Selective Mutism is diagnosed between the ages of 3 and 8 years old.  More than 90% of children with Selective Mutism also have social anxiety.  This can cause severe distress in the child and may prevent her from participating in school or making new friends.  It can also prohibit the child from asking for help, even if she has a basic need, such as using the bathroom.

The inability to speak in a school setting should not be confused with a child learning a new language or a child who has a naturally shy temperament.  If a child speaks another language fluently at home, she may be reluctant to try out the new language at school.  But eventually, bilingual children find friends and begin the socialization process; first non-verbally, then with a few key words in the new language.   A slow-to-warm child also needs time to adjust to a new preschool setting.  However, once the child understands the rules and structure of the school, she, too, finds friends and begins to integrate into the classroom routines.  The child with Selective Mutism, however, always “freezes” when presented with a social interaction, even months after school has begun.

To support a child with Selective Mutism, it is important to remove all pressure to talk.  If a child is severely inhibited and unable to speak in school, putting pressure on them to speak will negatively reinforce the behavior.   With all social anxieties, it is critical to build social skills and communication strategies using small, manageable steps.  Create non-verbal communication strategies, such as pointing or using picture cards.  Increase a child’s self-esteem and self-confidence by making them a helper in the classroom.  Any steps towards communication (verbal or non-verbal) should be reinforced and praised.  Allow the child to share their artwork or help another child during play.  Make sure they have plenty of opportunities to partner with one friend on a particular task or activity.

With patience and persistence, a child can be given every opportunity to fully participate in the preschool setting, even without verbal communication.  Create a plan of small steps towards the goal of speaking to the teacher and allow the child time and space to reach that goal.

Resources on Selective Mutism:

Heidi Emberling, MA
Early Childhood Parent Education Specialist